The Mans Guide to Vibrators

We spoke to sex experts and sex educators to answer the biggest questions about these sex toys and break down the very best panty vibes for your (uniquely private) pleasure. For far too long, sex toys missed the mark, especially when it came to people with vulvas. Studies have repeatedly shown that people with vulvas need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, but it wasn’t until 2014 that the first clitoral suction toy hit the market. These days many suction toys (also called clit suckers) have been designed by the people using them.

“It gave me the most intense orgasms I’ve ever experienced,” said one satisfied tester. Some brands may note that their toys are made from “body-safe” materials. All medical-grade silicone is also body-safe—but the reverse isn’t always true. To find the best wand vibrators, SELF contributors pulled on their combined nearly three decades of experience testing and reviewing sex toys. We also consulted 10 experts and asked them to share their tried-and-true recommendations. The final list includes high-quality, top-rated wand vibrators across different sizes, price points, and intensities.

You can use your fingers to figure out which, if any, orifices you’re comfortable having penetrated , or if you’d prefer the stimulation stay on the exterior parts of your genitals. You can also experiment to see if you enjoy simultaneous internal and external stimulation. Hands can also allow for more finesse and precision than a toy can, so if you’re someone who finds that you prefer a more targeted sensation, hands are definitely your friend. They can be a way for you to experiment with vibration and other sensations if you don’t have access to a sex toy store. D.I.Y is often cheaper than buying a toy made specifically for sexy purposes.

But for the purposes of this article, let’s assume you just want to incorporate some basic balls-based pleasure into sex or masturbation and don’t know where to start. “With the balls being so intimidating, I find that simpler is better,” Zizelman points out. There’s a surprising number of toys that work well for precisely that purpose. While we love this surprisingly rumbly bullet all on its own, in this nifty set it’s packaged with two attachments that can turn it into either a vibrating cock ring or an ergonomic finger vibe. The kit gives you a lot of options for the price, especially since you can use this toy in so many varying ways.

It’s both a clitoral and internal stimulator and is a source of “pleasure for both partners,” according to one tester. Grinding mimics the “humping” motion that many people learn to masturbate with (say, against a pillow), as well as the thrusting motions that people with penises do during penetrative sex. Toys elevate the sensation of grinding by adding vibration viberator, texture, or other stimulating features. The noisy, room-shaking sex toys of years past have graduated to sleek, high-quality, and near-silent designs that don’t sacrifice power for discretion. From suction vibrators that are all about the clit, to precise G-spot vibrators, to backdoor action anal vibrators, there are a ton of whisper-quiet vibrators that get you there without waking up the whole house. Cue the Greek chorus, this is the ultimate trifecta of suction sex toys.