The Best Vibrators for Men Are Ready to Rumble

It’s not likely that one particular pattern will blow your mind more than the others, but some women may find that they have decently strong preferences. If you feel a little baffled about all the options, just stick with the constant vibration pattern. Smile Makers The Firefighter Intense Clitoral Vibrator is a uniquely-shaped clitoral vibrator extending the vibration to the labia for a broader stimulation.

Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship, a camgirl, or just a fan of public play , it can be hard to come up with new ways to keep things hot at a distance.

The Cherry vibrator was absolutely my favorite item of the two I tried. It has the utility of a great sex toy wrapped in a fun, irreverent package. It’s an inconspicuous item, too—you could leave it out on your shelves or as part of your decor, and honestly no one would blink. A lot of rose-shaped clitoral stimulators are designed to sit comfortably in the hand, and taper vibrator, so that the part that you’re using for suction isn’t uncomfortable against you.

The nozzle’s opening is larger, with a thinner, softer rim, and it creates a sensation that is more gentle and diffuse in comparison with other suction vibrators, which can feel uncomfortably intense at times. Two primary factors may impact sex-toy selection for trans, nonbinary, and other gender-diverse people. The first is the use of hormones or gender-affirming surgeries that may impact genital function in a variety of ways. The second is the psychological component of genital dysphoria experienced by some trans and nonbinary people. Trans women may feel more comfortable using vibrators rather than toys marketed as “male strokers,” as it is more gender-affirming. Conversely, some of our transmasculine sources expressed a preference for air-suction or mini stroker toys that can be penetrated over traditional clitoral vibrators.

In addition to enhancing lovemaking, the discussion involved in partner vibrator play also increases couple intimacy. As lovers share how they’d like to play with vibes, they get to know each other more deeply. As couples incorporate vibrator play into intercourse, initially the woman should handle the device, and show the man how she likes to use it on herself. Men should pay special attention to how women want vibes used on them. Both the penis and clitoris contain around the same number of touch-sensitive nerve receptors, but in the clitoris, they’re packed into much less tissue, which makes the clitoris more sensitive to touch than the penis. Many women’s clitorises are too sensitive for direct touch with a vibrator (and sometimes with fingers or mouth).

Whether you’re looking for a vibrator that can blend seamlessly with the decor of your bedroom or are just looking for a more out-of-the-ordinary device for your collection—you have options. The Crave Vesper is both of those things, with its long, sleek body that has multiple settings (including gentle and oscillating) for external use. “In addition to being easy-to-use, Vesper provides an aesthetic jewelry experience,” says Ti Chang, VP of Design and co-founder of Crave. If you like to engage in a little backdoor action, check out this beginner-friendly butt plug designed specifically for people with vulvas. It’s slim with an asymmetric base that won’t block the vaginal opening, and the curved tulip shape guides penises or toys toward the G-spot. Some are curved or have bulbous ends for G-spot stimulation, like the Lovehoney G-Slim G-Spot Vibrator ($20, Lovehoney).

You may want to do some research to pick a vibrator that will satisfy your needs, although many vibrators have a variety of possible uses and vibration strength settings. The Ruby Glow Massager contours to your body—one side has raised ridges that you can grind your vulva against, while the other features a smooth nub that targets your perineum. Each side has its own motor, so “you can either rock back and forth along the toy, or simply sit down on it and let the vibrations do all the leg work,” Finn tells SELF. The Ballerina stays easy to maneuver in any position and can even rest between two bodies without you holding it there. It has 12 different settings, two simple buttons, and is quiet (even at its strongest). I try to keep things simple and stick with vibrators that are USB rechargeable either with USB-A or USB-C.